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When we first started researching this wonderful way to become a family we read everything we could get our hands on. Even though there are a lot of great books out there, nothing was as informative or touching as the blogs we found by adoptees, biological parents, and adoptive families. So we are writing this blog now in hopes of returning the favor. We hope that if you are dear to us you will enjoy keeping up with our adventures. If you are someone out there involved in a part of the adoption triad we hope you will find information and comfort here and provide us with some of your own!

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Take care,
Brian and Rosemary

Monday, July 20, 2009

Referral, referral, referral!!



We are now the proud parents of a beautiful 10-month-old baby boy!!


What? You mean you want the complete story chock full of details? Well, if you insist...

So for those of you who are Holt families on the list to adopt from Thailand you will remember that when June referrals were finally announced (in early July) Marissa emailed all of us and said, "The first 4 families on the list received a baby and a 5th child was also placed." We were blessed to be matched with the fifth child!! It could not possibly have come at a crazier time for us either. It was the week we moved into our new house and we were surrounded by boxes, painting rooms and trying to get Brian ready to start a new job. We were still number 13 on the list and had been told to expect March 2010 but hope for December 2009. So yes, this was the best, most unexpected, overwhelming surprise EVER!!

If you are a PAP or if you follow adoption this may seem confusing or frustrating but we were the first people on the waiting list whose paperwork stated they were open to receiving a child from a case like this. Button has a bit of an unusual social history and some unknowns which we are not going to discuss because that is his private life history and his to share when he wants with whom he wants. We are so very blessed to have this little guy in our life and we thank God for bringing him to us! We hope we can be the parents he deserves in every way.

Button is the most beautiful little boy in the history of the world and we are completely in love with him. We received 5 pictures from his 3 month checkup and 5 from his 6 month. He is gorgeous, healthy and his update said his fine and gross motor skills were developing on track and that he is a happy and responsive baby. What more could a mother want?

What? You're wondering why we didn't tell everyone on planet earth right away? Oh yes, well that's because both our families live very far away and we really wanted to share it with them beforehand. So we told Brian's mom and grandparents first. Finally, my Mom's 60th birthday party was this past Saturday so we framed and wrapped a picture of Button as one of her presents. Both she and my dad started crying!! It was worth it for the surprise factor but, I'll tell you, I nearly died trying to keep this a secret for 3 weeks. I have been avoidng everyone's phone calls because I was so afraid I would give it away! So now that the cats out of the bag for all the family we can tell everyone else our best news ever: We have a son.

Miracles do happen,
--Rosemary

23 comments:

Jen and Jeff said...

Oh, Roses, we are SOOOOO happy for you! Can't wait to hear more details of the party and so excited to hear more about "Button" when you get them. You two are going to make the best parents ever!!! Let's try to get together in August mid way!

Wyndee said...

Yeah!!!!!!!!!!!! Many many many congratulations!!!!!

Emily said...

Oh my goodness - I am just so thrilled for you guys. We are number 10 and I just wish we could travel together- I'll pray for some more miracles!!

Ellie said...

CONGRATULATIONS!!! You're GOOD, keeping it in for three weeks! Looking forward to hearing more!

Robin and Kyle said...

I choked on my lunch when I read your first sentence! WOO HOO for you guys and WOO HOO for Button!!! You guys are going to be awesome awesome parents. I wondered about the wording of that last update from Marissa. We're really happy for you guys!

Chris and Terri said...

Oh My Goodness!!! I had to do a double-take and go 1newfamily is Rosemary...right??? I was like that cartoon character making that zippy noise for a minute!

I am crying and have cold chills and am so excited for you guys!!! Our little ones are 3 months apart and what's even better is we might travel together b/c we're both I-600 families!!!! Here's praying that happens in December!!!

Kudos to you keeping Button a secret for that long! WOW! I'm so excited for you guys! Can you tell? I'm rambling again...

Jessica said...

Hurray, hurray, hurray! But I have to tell you, I STILL need more details about Baby Button and the party. Good work at keeping such a fabulous secret!

Sarah said...

Hoorah! I was just thinking about you this morning and decided to check your blog. What fantastic news. Three cheers for you, Brian and Button.
xoxox

Yoli said...

OH I AM SO FREAKING HAPPY FOR YOU GUYS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Please, is there any way you can share one little picture?!!! I have been waiting for this and when you started referring to button as a "he" I knew something was up.

Without a doubt you will be the best parents--EVER. Congratulations my friend, enjoy your beautiful boy and this amazing happiness. I am thrilled for you!!!

Melissa May said...

Happy, happy sighs and smiles from this side of the country for you all! : ) So wonderful. : )

Nichole and Craig said...

Congratulations. That is awesome news

blackbelt said...

AAAAAH!!!! CONGRATS CONGRATS CONGRATS!!!! I am THRILLED HAPPY THRILLED!! Did I say THRILLED??

OK I'm going to read your post now.

a Tonggu Momma said...

Congratulations! You will never forget that day... and the day you first hold him in your arms will surpass all that you felt when you saw his photos.

Sharon said...

Oh my goodness!!! What a surprise! I was just scanning through Facebook and saw your post! Congratulations!!!!! Button (from that teeny tiny picture) looks adorable, can't wait to see more photos, (and was there ever a cuter name than button!??!!)
I remember trying to decipher what Marissa meant too about the 'fifth child'! Now we know!
SO, happy for you guys, enjoy planning, you have such an incredibly, amazing journey ahead of you.

lucy said...

oh my gosh - this is GREAT!!!!! YAY!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Gem said...

congratulations
Gem x

McClain's said...

God is good and His timing is perfect! We are so thrilled for you and just rejoicing for this special gift, your healthy, beautiful little boy! I can't wait to hear more about him. I know you are reeling with excitement, anticipation, and happiness. And since I'm completely ignorant to the adoption process, when will you get to go get him??? I want to come see you guys soon. Let me know when in August would be a good day! Love you guys and congrats again!

Margie said...

Congratulations!!!!

Just reading this made me cry. Seriously, every time I read about a referral these days I cry. This is what happens after they grow up.

Best to you all, I know you're on cloud 9x9!!

Bridget said...

Congratulations! How amazing! I can't even imagine the joy you must have felt when you got that phone call. It is so wonderful to hear about a referral coming early for a change. I can't wait to hear more about your little one. And I can't believe you held onto that secret for sooo long. I think Ted and I took about 10 steps from the phone before we started telling everyone we could think of.

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Ann and Bryan said...

This is WONDERFUL NEWS! It's the kind of thing that makes every adoptive parent's heart jump and tears of happiness flow. Congratulations!!!

Megan said...

Congratulations Rosemary!! What exciting news! Isn't it the best when it is so unexpected. Great job keeping the good news a secret, it must have been killing you!! Enjoy the moment, Mommy!!

Mireille said...

CONGRATULATIONS!! I am sooo happy for you both!! A late reaction, since I was on my trip and I am so sad we couldn't meet each other in NYC. But who knows our paths may cross some day! Can't wait to hear more about little 'button'!! You will be awesome parents!!