When we first started researching this wonderful way to become a family we read everything we could get our hands on. Even though there are a lot of great books out there, nothing was as informative or touching as the blogs we found by adoptees, biological parents, and adoptive families. So we are writing this blog now in hopes of returning the favor. We hope that if you are dear to us you will enjoy keeping up with our adventures. If you are someone out there involved in a part of the adoption triad we hope you will find information and comfort here and provide us with some of your own!
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Feel free to stop by anytime. We're happy to share our family story.
Brian and Rosemary
Monday, December 29, 2008
Monday, December 22, 2008
Tuesday, December 16, 2008
Friday, December 12, 2008
Thursday, December 11, 2008
Monday, December 8, 2008
Thursday, December 4, 2008
Monday, December 1, 2008
Friday, November 28, 2008
Monday, November 24, 2008
Thursday, November 20, 2008
Sunday, November 16, 2008
As a doctor, I'm always a little skeptical about things like this, but they really do seem to have based their work on solid medical research. The other cool thing about it is that they automatically update your profile as new research comes out. So, for example, if they identify the gene for leukemia they will automatically run that test on your filed sample and update your profile with the results.
As adoptive parents, we've always regretted that we probably wouldn't be able to give our kids a full picture of their medical history. No "my grandma has diabetes and my paternal uncle had a heart attack" to fill out on the form at the doctors office. While this may not seem
like a big deal to us we have the luxury of having this information. Like so many things about adoption, we've found ourselves thinking about how important that family history would seem if we didn't know anything about it. It's just one more thing about themselves that our children will not have a complete picture of. And we feel that, if we can help him to have that knowledge, we absolutely should, both for medical and emotional reasons.
Another really interesting feature of this service is the ancestry research part. They can determine a lot about your ethnic ancestry based on the DNA sample they take from you. Again, "your grandfather immigrated to Thailand from China" is something that we won't know to tell our child, but might be able to learn from this testing. We've learned so much about how difficult an issue identity is for many adopted kids, especially those adopted internationally. Being able to arm them with some genetic information about themselves, even if it's only a little, seems worth any amount of money to us. Rosemary, who is a worrier, is also relived to feel that this might be helpful if our kids were really ill.
Saturday, November 15, 2008
Tuesday, November 11, 2008
Saturday, November 8, 2008
Wednesday, November 5, 2008
Tuesday, November 4, 2008
Sunday, November 2, 2008
We haven't bought anything for our baby yet since we don't know who we are expecting or when they will arrive. I must confess though - this has been really, REALLY hard for me. We agreed though that buying a bunch of stuff this early would probably be a logistical mistake. Especially since we are moving in 8 months. So instead I have been doing "research" online. I don't buy anything I just find all the stuff I want to buy and then take copious notes. I'm afraid that this is going to result in even more purchases further down the road but at least I am managing to keep my desire to "mommy-shop" in check for the time being.
Thursday, October 30, 2008
There are two main beer brands brewed in Thailand: Chang and Singha. Singha is the one better known in the US, since it is imported here, but Chang is actually the better selling in Thailand. Anyway, Chang was planning to become the first alcohol-producing company to list on Thailand's stock exchange (SET) . . . but then a whole mess of Thai monks came along!
Tuesday, October 28, 2008
Thursday, October 23, 2008
Sunday, October 19, 2008
We've been experimenting with Thai cooking (both eating it and making it) lately. We bought a great cookbook, Simple Thai Cookery, by Ken Hom. It's full of good pictures and has about 40 basic Thai recipes that are pretty easy to make. There's a nice introduction that includes lots of information about Thai cooking style, ingredients, and utensils. All of this combines to make cooking Thai food much less daunting. Pretty much everything is made in a wok, which is a very easy and quick way to prepare food. The other nice thing about it is that all dishes are "one-pot" recipes, so they're easy to clean up!
Thursday, October 16, 2008
Monday, October 13, 2008
Sunday, October 12, 2008
Adapted by Liza Steinberg Triggs from "A Bill of Rights for Mixed Folks," by Marilyn Dramé.
- Every child is entitled to love and full membership in his or her family.
- Every child is entitled to have his or her heritage and culture embraced and valued.
- Every child is entitled to parents who value individuality and enjoy complexity.
- Every child is entitled to parents who understand that this is a race conscious society.
- Every child is entitled to parents who know their child will experience life in ways differently from theirs.
- Every child is entitled to parents who are not seeking to "save" a child or to make the world a better place by adopting.
- Every child is entitled to parents who know belonging to a family is not based on physical matching.
- Every child is entitled to parents who have significant relationships with people of other races.
- Every child is entitled to parents who know transracial adoption changes the family structure forever.
- Every child is entitled to be accepted by his or her extended family members.
- Every child is entitled to parents who know that if they are white they experience the benefits of racism because the country's system is organized that way.
- Every child is entitled to parents who know they cannot be the sole transmitter of the child's culture when it is not their own.
- Every child is entitled to grow up with items in their home environment created for and by people of their own race or ethnicity.
- Every child is entitled to have places available to make friends with people of his or her race or ethnicity.
- Every child is entitled to have opportunities in his or her environment to participate in positive experiences with his or her birth culture.
- Every child is entitled to opportunities to build racial pride within his or her own home, school, and neighborhood.