tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.comments2023-05-01T10:08:47.845-04:00Becoming A FamilyBrian and Rosemaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10937005438615470890noreply@blogger.comBlogger1075125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-90218085057401001472010-09-12T09:04:11.228-04:002010-09-12T09:04:11.228-04:00I am sure it's all very difficult but it all s...I am sure it's all very difficult but it all sound GOOD!!! I think kids can sort of "forget" about their fears and start bonding, and then it gets too loving and get scared and then have a tantrum because that's all they know how to do! <br /><br />It all sounds GOOD!!!blackbelthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04682743823175329828noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-62820985016230390872010-06-15T08:57:20.195-04:002010-06-15T08:57:20.195-04:00Glad you are back and feeling healthier!! It has t...Glad you are back and feeling healthier!! It has to come out of the system and I guess it was your time for feeling a bit under the weather. How children want everybody at their finger tips is funny. My girls would LOVE the same. Glad grandpa is visiting us tomorrow here in Thailand! The girls are beyond happy!Mireillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12811610682024643077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-54520649332516115342010-06-12T10:49:31.709-04:002010-06-12T10:49:31.709-04:00Glad to see you back on the blog. We are excited t...Glad to see you back on the blog. We are excited to get to meet the whole family when you are settled in Oregon. I can't wait to get the boys together. We will need to exchange contact information once you arrive. <br />Button's progress still mirrors that of Braxton. Somewhat comfoting to know they are somewhat "normal" with their progress.Jason Yutziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13935926521856428602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-49618023858507281232010-06-12T08:31:23.993-04:002010-06-12T08:31:23.993-04:00I'm glad to hear that bonding is still progres...I'm glad to hear that bonding is still progressing, and I can see how the 2 steps forward, 1 step back, would make sense. Sorry to hear that you were not feeling well. I imagine the plane flight reminded button of that stressful, unknowing first plane flight home.<br />Thanks for the updates, I will be checking in!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11247274435874561314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-1622661368103521402010-06-10T18:41:43.494-04:002010-06-10T18:41:43.494-04:00Welcome back! I'm SO glad to see you back on ...Welcome back! I'm SO glad to see you back on your blog--I missed stopping by and checking in on what your family has been up to. (My hubby and I will be adopting from China in a couple of years here, so I love reading the experiences of other adoptive families . . . I've been reading your blog for several months now. THANK YOU so much for sharing!)<br /><br />Sorry to hear that you've had some health issues--that sounds really rough, especially since you have plenty going on already. It seems to me that you and your hubs are doing a really amazing job at getting through all the ups and downs of new parenthood, though. Keep up the good work! You are inspiring to me.Dorihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17381004756701198379noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-52080257511848515282010-06-09T23:15:27.680-04:002010-06-09T23:15:27.680-04:00Oh you poor thing with the sickness and the unhapp...Oh you poor thing with the sickness and the unhappy flyer. I'm dreading the next flight - our only trip away was a road trip - not that I'm not ready and needing some sand in my life but the kids just got out of school so hopefully, soon.<br /><br />All the best as you move coast to coast.Chris and Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00066373076858618230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-57215406040996433342010-06-09T16:02:07.374-04:002010-06-09T16:02:07.374-04:00Wow. So much change in such a short time for you a...Wow. So much change in such a short time for you all. I echo Jen, Im sorry to hear about health issues and I hope that all is better. Soon you and Button will be traveling champs!Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939361541926609995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-85747322026514414282010-06-09T14:41:25.150-04:002010-06-09T14:41:25.150-04:00I was beginning to wonder what happened to you! :-...I was beginning to wonder what happened to you! :-) Glad to hear you are doing well and making progress. Sorry to hear about your health. Hope you are okay and feeling much better. Good that your parents could be there to help! God bless grandparents!Maci Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13506178512279029315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-84921609663234365842010-05-31T15:10:41.493-04:002010-05-31T15:10:41.493-04:00love it! he's so cute!!love it! he's so cute!!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-40401302159278984152010-05-31T14:52:02.071-04:002010-05-31T14:52:02.071-04:00The part about Gilbert made me laugh. :)The part about Gilbert made me laugh. :)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-81000157757241257522010-05-30T00:35:56.238-04:002010-05-30T00:35:56.238-04:00Oh, Rosemary... yes, thank God for the sweet mome...Oh, Rosemary... yes, thank God for the sweet moments and signs of progress. Don't feel silly for crying over snuggles. Parenting is one of the hardest things ever (just ask God!) and when our kids respond by receiving our love and loving us back??? It NEVER gets old. Love is what families were created for and our kids aren't the only ones who need it. You guys are doing a great job!<br /><br />Funny! My word verification is "safefer" and I'm sure that Button is feeling "safefer and safefer" with you every day, even when he doesn't know how to rest in it! : )Melissa Enshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13150144883345686275noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-69789549015370545662010-05-23T22:59:20.481-04:002010-05-23T22:59:20.481-04:00I'm catching up on you past few posts today Ro...I'm catching up on you past few posts today Rosemary. Thank you for being so candid. It is important to learn all of these details. I am so amazed at how you are able to look at each step and analyze it. I am so happy to hear of Button's progress in trust and love. Keep up the good work, you are an awesome mom!Anniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11247274435874561314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-56308378726733084032010-05-17T11:16:39.290-04:002010-05-17T11:16:39.290-04:00For the most part Braxton seems to be a mama's...For the most part Braxton seems to be a mama's boy but then suddenly he slaps or bites me. About a week ago he was snuggling with me on the couch then he suddenly bit my arm so hard that I screamed and nearly cried. He left a perfect bite mark through two layers of clothes that lasted for days then turned into an ugly bruise. I think I was hurt more emotionally than physically. I was really upset about it. It made me question everything; am I doing something wrong, have we not bonded as well as I thought, etc...<br /><br />StaciJason Yutziehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13935926521856428602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-88120862485924065172010-05-17T00:58:40.060-04:002010-05-17T00:58:40.060-04:00AYOBA!! That is what they say in SA, when somethin...AYOBA!! That is what they say in SA, when something great, cool happens!! I am so happy for you, this is a memorable moment and so good that you wrote both sides down. You are a super mommy and he is a super baby!! With also a super daddy!Mireillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12811610682024643077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-41672124659612961362010-05-17T00:55:57.248-04:002010-05-17T00:55:57.248-04:00I feel for you Rosemary... and honestly deeply fee...I feel for you Rosemary... and honestly deeply feel for you. Luckily you read about this and knew it could happen, so hang in there, progress is already made and it will be better. You in here for the long haul and he will be momma's boy for sure. It may take some time but it will come!!Mireillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12811610682024643077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-76219855857823517862010-05-15T11:08:10.066-04:002010-05-15T11:08:10.066-04:00We adoptive parents get what you're going thro...We adoptive parents get what you're going through. We are cheering you and Button on. Lots of love and tears for you and your family!chaniemomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17070645945655465424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-85487712755755131302010-05-15T01:58:49.342-04:002010-05-15T01:58:49.342-04:00I so remember the walking on egg shells feeling. ...I so remember the walking on egg shells feeling. Mia definitely initially preferred men to women. Have to love the snuggles - takes a while to get there but we are stronger for going through it.<br /><br />I can't seem to find a balance to blog and even at 2am - she just woke up and is looking at me. Gotta goChris and Terrihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00066373076858618230noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-8187107002060556452010-05-15T00:55:27.477-04:002010-05-15T00:55:27.477-04:00I recently discovered your blog and I love it. You...I recently discovered your blog and I love it. Your honesty and your kindness shine through, and I love that you are sharing all the info, not just the sugar-coated kind. We are living in Thailand and in the process of adopting a son here, and your shared journey means a lot to me. Thanks. :)Tara and Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336978805731990875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-44727598160558817152010-05-14T15:46:35.939-04:002010-05-14T15:46:35.939-04:00Yes; Daddy is the favorite here too. Our son will...Yes; Daddy is the favorite here too. Our son will hold my hand in public only if Daddy is not around or he has his hands full. At bed time and bath time he screams for Daddy. If Daddy sneaks out, he goes into panic mode when he realizes he's alone with Mommy. But his smile melts my heart and listening to he and Daddy giggle is the greatest sound on earth! Considering Daddy was not as "into" this whole adoption this as I was with all the paperwork and country research, I am happy that this is his time to shine and to feel included in the process. I am sure things will turn around eventually...he already knows that Mommy is his swimming partner...I love it!Ann and Bryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106850507445386815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-2351247330033476972010-05-14T12:01:54.562-04:002010-05-14T12:01:54.562-04:00wow!! I think that is amazing!!! It took about 6...wow!! I think that is amazing!!! It took about 6 months with Ricky before we saw a change. And since it was a domestic adoption (since loss and grief is universal), he understood the language and man, did he know how to use hurtful words, but the punching, hitting, kicking, and spitting (oh God, the spitting) soon turned into hugs, kisses and lots of snuggles with my mom and myself. He is now the most affectionate of all the children in the family.<br />I only wish I would have read this kind of blog when we were in the middle of his anger, it would have been so helpful and encouraging.<br /><br />I think you are fantastic and thank you for being so open. You know how to express yourself with an honesty that is so needed for all the mommies (or even big siblings out there) that are finding ways to help their children process such loss and grief.Unknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02798382490891563290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-13552203110729387472010-05-14T09:58:13.331-04:002010-05-14T09:58:13.331-04:00Love this post!! Thanks for sharing this most wond...Love this post!! Thanks for sharing this most wonderful HUGE step in bonding with your little one! They come around in their own time and we can almost miss those moments but they are so precious and sweet! So happy that you got that wonderful snuggle time!Aprilhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07395564165281446365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-4929583531100087662010-05-14T09:11:24.764-04:002010-05-14T09:11:24.764-04:00Rosemary,
I heard a portion of Fresh Air yesterday...Rosemary,<br />I heard a portion of Fresh Air yesterday, it was on international adoption, sounded really good and made me think of y'all. If you didn't hear it you might find it interesting: http://www.npr.org/templates/story/story.php?storyId=126777059<br /><br />Be well, BradBRhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13598807370259216308noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-15606400856029663812010-05-14T00:14:12.109-04:002010-05-14T00:14:12.109-04:00Oh, I SO remember that moment when the Tongginator...Oh, I SO remember that moment when the Tongginator first sank into my arms in such a way. Congratulations! It's a moment you will always remember.a Tonggu Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365812914466181060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-12891781062229012202010-05-14T00:11:28.962-04:002010-05-14T00:11:28.962-04:00Button must have been a monk in another lifetime w...Button must have been a monk in another lifetime with all of that chanting! Who knew that darn tortise and the hare parable would have lifelong application. But the finish line holds your little boy's complete heart. What a worthwhile prize!<br /><br />Love is little, love is big and love is patient. You've exemplified that.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939361541926609995noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-4171696836046756582010-05-13T16:09:02.766-04:002010-05-13T16:09:02.766-04:00Wow, you are doing an incredible job! The part abo...Wow, you are doing an incredible job! The part about him adding you to his names of comfort list and the koala snuggle made me tear up. I'm so glad for you and in awe of your sensitivity to his needs. Way to go! The slap seems to me like he is testing you. Like to see if you will stop holding him or not love him if he does it. I read about that somewhere. But anyway, keep on going, Momma! Your'e doing great!Maci Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13506178512279029315noreply@blogger.com