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When we first started researching this wonderful way to become a family we read everything we could get our hands on. Even though there are a lot of great books out there, nothing was as informative or touching as the blogs we found by adoptees, biological parents, and adoptive families. So we are writing this blog now in hopes of returning the favor. We hope that if you are dear to us you will enjoy keeping up with our adventures. If you are someone out there involved in a part of the adoption triad we hope you will find information and comfort here and provide us with some of your own!

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Take care,
Brian and Rosemary

Sunday, March 7, 2010

Meeting Our Baby

I don't think I will ever forget those first minutes when Button when walked into the room. He was such a brave little guy. His social worker was walking next to him and he was sort of surveying the situation (3 social workers, 2 families of farangs and the other sweet little matched toddler who was very loudly upset) but he didn't have to be carried and he never shed a single tear.

I sat down on the floor and started playing with some toddler sized blocks we brought. I stacked them up (counting in Thai) and knocked them over with small explosion noises. Button cautiously edged closer to the fun. After a minute or so I held out a block to him and he happily took it. In another minute I said his Thai nickname and he came over, stacked his block and knocked them over. Then he sat down and took over the blocks like a happy little dictator stacking and knocking them down and handing blocks to me or Brian to hold. Then his social worker gave him a ball out of her diaper bag. This is clearly the FAVORITE toy and he immediately recognized me as a subpar partner. He kicked and threw his ball (hard and long and connections) with Brian thereafter. He is content to play with the ball for a very long time and he rarely misses his aim. Brian is overjoyed!

At this time the other family left to go to their room and it was just us and the social worker and Button seemed to suddenly take stock of very new (and strange) surroundings. For a second I thought he might cry but then he just tiptoed over to a large bank of cabinets by the tv, gave us a mischevious, over-the-shoulder grin and started opening them one by one and pushing buttons on the TV. He let me hold him and walk all around the suite showing him the bedroom where we would sleep, the bathroom where we would wash up, the kitchen where we would have snacks (translated by social worker). We have no idea what he is absorbing at this point but he doesn't show much fear. He climbed right up on the bed and snuggled in the pillows and wanted to be read his book. He wanted to be read the book in every room in the house. I'm so glad that we basically have a small children's library waiting for him at home because he obviously likes books. My turn to be overjoyed!

Our whole group met in the dining room for lunch and we had our first go at feeding him. Typically, he was most interested in drinking from Daddy's cup of cold water but he ate a fair amount of fried rice and an insane amount of papaya so I was satisfied. He does an extremely cute thing though: when he gets a bite of something he especially likes he takes both fists and rubs them, opening and closing on his tummy, in this expression of pure delight like a little Koala bear. So far he doesn't seem to have any particular preference for one of us over the other. He loves playing with Brian - it would appear that blocks and ball are better with Brian. He happily lets us both hold him and carry him though. We are so grateful that he is not afraid or resentful of 1 of us because this makes sharing the parenting load so much easier and we hope this equal adjustment to us keeps up.

Today we were also given a very comprehensive update of his schedule, food needs, and personality by the social workers. As we studied it after he left we couldn't help but laugh. I have no idea what these updates say to other parents but Button's says, "Please be aware of accidents that happen due to to this little boy's curiosity and activeness with climbing, searching and loving of electronic appliances." And Brian said we didn't need the toilet locks!! The update also told us that his favorite toy is his ball and he loves to play in water and take his bath and that he is afraid of ducks and the noise they make. Cute, huh?

We were only with him today for 4 hours before he needed to go home and get some rest and decamp from all of this stress. Even though I hated putting him in that van I know that this slow process of transition that HSF does is best for the children. He is so beautiful and perfect and we can't wait to see him again! Next, among other things, we will go to his foster family's home to meet them, show some expression of our deep gratitude and get to see Button in his familiar environment which should be an eye-opener. Exciting!!
--Rosemary

20 comments:

Wendy said...

Rosemary,
What a wonderful first day! Thank you so much for the update! Enjoy this amazing time in your lives, and keep those updates coming!

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Emily said...

I love him.

Kerrie (and Jason) said...

This is just wonderful Rosemary - a beautiful post where you joy just shines through. I can't wait to hear more.

April said...

Thank you so much for including all of us in your journey!! I know how exhuastin the entire process is and for you to take the time to blog and post pictures is such a blessing! It sounds like you had a wonderful first day and I pray it continues to be just as calm for little Button.
April

Jessica said...

Wow! He is handling it all like a champ. Such beautiful first moments. What a beautiful beginning!

Wyndee said...

I'm so very very happy for you!!!!! Button is PERFECT!

Sharon said...

Love it!!

Jay and Chandra and Penny Regan said...

What a great first day!!! I'm so happy for you! It sounds like you've been preparing for this your whole lives.

Mrs. Barno said...

What an incredible day! Thank you for the updates, too :) Love you three!!

excitedtobeafamily said...

What a wonderful day! That seems like a great way to get him introduced to his parents even though the sepration must be a bit hard for you both!

Maci Miller said...

Oh, what a great first visit! I love hearing the details, love how you describe his little hands over his belly when he likes something...and love how you sat on the floor with him in those first moments and let him come over to you. So great! Glad he is responding positively to both of you, too. That is so wonderful!!!! Good luck tomorrow! Have another fabulous day!

Maci Miller said...

Oh, and everyone laughed at all my locks, too, but believe me you need them! Ruby climbs on EVERYTHING now! Caught her trying to scale the wine cabinet and nearly had a heart attack! You can't be too cautious when it comes to safety!

Sarah said...

Button is so brave! What lovely first moments. Thank you for sharing.
xoxo

Melissa May said...

How wonderful to have such a wonderful first day with him!!! What a trooper! (How old is he? I can't remember...) I was out of internet contact for the weekend so happy to jump back in for such a great start! : ) Keep having fun!!!

Chris and Terri said...

What a wonderful day! So happy for you guys!

And yes, we were warned about Mia's curiosity too. She is into everything that isn't locked down and climbs like a pro! LOL Love every moment!

Robin and Kyle said...

Awesome, awesome, awesome!!

I've been on a retreat in the woods all weekend and your blog was the one piece of technology I couldn't wait to get home to!

You'll never forget this day. We're thrilled for you guys!

Annie said...

Rosemary, where have I been!!!?? I was working so much the past month that I haven't had time to go on the blogs and here you are traveling and meeting Button already!!! How wonderful! He sounds like a delight and your first meeting went so well! Blessings, and I am sooooo happy for you!

Megan said...

I am loving every detail you are giving us!! He sounds incredibly precious!

Blessings`

Mireille said...

Oh how I love to read those first special moments, thanks for sharing!! I can't wait to read more!! Enjoy these precious moments!!