We designed this site in order to keep in touch with friends and family who are far away and in order to communicate with other adoptive families from around the world.

When we first started researching this wonderful way to become a family we read everything we could get our hands on. Even though there are a lot of great books out there, nothing was as informative or touching as the blogs we found by adoptees, biological parents, and adoptive families. So we are writing this blog now in hopes of returning the favor. We hope that if you are dear to us you will enjoy keeping up with our adventures. If you are someone out there involved in a part of the adoption triad we hope you will find information and comfort here and provide us with some of your own!

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Feel free to stop by anytime. We're happy to share our family story.

Take care,
Brian and Rosemary

Monday, January 11, 2010

A blog by any other name?

Recently someone asked us if we were going to rename our blog after Button came home.
We were surprised by the question because we carefully named this blog (long before we knew who Button was) so we wouldn't have to rename it once we had met our child. When we picked out the name, we were looking for something that would speak to the constant issues of family (and adoptive families) without seeming to just end at a court date that made us legal parents. So we chose "Becoming a Family".

In our minds, we are "Becoming A Family" forever. We were becoming a family in the moment of our first kiss, the second we realized we were in love, when we took marriage vows, when we decided to move to New York City and when we decided to move away, when we fight over loading the dishwasher "the wrong way", when we take turns emptying the cat box, when we make dinner for each other, when we face down pure terror over our child's health, when we celebrate Valentine's day.

We are becoming a family every moment of every day. It is a constantly evolving reality that we are thrilled to add children to. This family that we are creating together will never be finished and it will never be perfect because perfection is never the goal. Becoming a family, whatever shape that may take, is our life's work.

--Brian and Rosemary


Megan said...

Very well said, Rosemary! I completely agree the *family* is constantly changing and heaven help me if perfection is the goal!! I have loved reading your last few posts and am very much looking forward to Button coming home.


Yoli said...

Beautifully stated.

Jessica said...

A work in progress, aren't we all, always. I wish I had been as forward thingking in picking a blog name!

Melissa Ens said...

Beautiful reminder, friends! Thank you!