Greetings!

We designed this site in order to keep in touch with friends and family who are far away and in order to communicate with other adoptive families from around the world.

When we first started researching this wonderful way to become a family we read everything we could get our hands on. Even though there are a lot of great books out there, nothing was as informative or touching as the blogs we found by adoptees, biological parents, and adoptive families. So we are writing this blog now in hopes of returning the favor. We hope that if you are dear to us you will enjoy keeping up with our adventures. If you are someone out there involved in a part of the adoption triad we hope you will find information and comfort here and provide us with some of your own!

If you would like to get in touch with us we can be reached at: becomingafamily@gmail.com
Feel free to stop by anytime. We're happy to share our family story.

Take care,
Brian and Rosemary

Sunday, March 22, 2009

The Name Game

Brian and I have finally made the decision not to use our child's name on this blog. Please don't assume that we think people who do that are in the wrong because WE DON'T!! It's nothing remotely like that. We just want to give our baby and his biological family as much privacy as possible. Lately we have been getting a lot of hits from around the world, which is really fun and we're thrilled to share our lives but we know that our child may not have a personality that feels comfortable with our level of openness and we want to respect that.

So exactly how are we going to refer to our child in blogland for all of time? Good question! Obviously we can't say "him/her" because that would be maddening and we have no intention of saying "our child" forever because that sounds like we're suffering from an ownership complex. So we've been searching for some kind of moniker that would reflect a specific baby or toddler who we don't yet know, have never met or seen and are as yet unaware of their sex. Hmmmm...

Have you ever noticed how you can take a plain old shirt, nothing special at all, and dress it up in a hundred different ways just by adding buttons? You can take the same shirt from simple to fancy to silly just by changing the button. Well, Brian and I are all ready. We are just waiting to find out how this family is going to look once our own unique Button is sewn on.


We're still trying to decide if we're going to post pictures of Button once he or she arrives. For now the jury is hung on that one.


- Rosemary




4 comments:

Jessica said...

Rosemary,

Button, I love it. And, if this juror might add her unsolicited vote, don't make us suffer pictureless. (although, trust me, I totally understand).

Mireille said...

Respect your opinion and LOVE button!! Will look with a different eye to my collection of buttons from now on :-)

Wyndee said...

Button---- love it! :-)

Yoli said...

Button is adorable and I totally understand. I went private with my blog after my son came home. I refer to him as Mr.Man and to my daughter as Sally, which is not her name.