tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post2872094714475497663..comments2023-05-01T10:08:47.845-04:00Comments on Becoming A Family: Button and Mamma pt. 1Brian and Rosemaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10937005438615470890noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-41672124659612961362010-05-17T00:55:57.248-04:002010-05-17T00:55:57.248-04:00I feel for you Rosemary... and honestly deeply fee...I feel for you Rosemary... and honestly deeply feel for you. Luckily you read about this and knew it could happen, so hang in there, progress is already made and it will be better. You in here for the long haul and he will be momma's boy for sure. It may take some time but it will come!!Mireillehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12811610682024643077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-8187107002060556452010-05-15T00:55:27.477-04:002010-05-15T00:55:27.477-04:00I recently discovered your blog and I love it. You...I recently discovered your blog and I love it. Your honesty and your kindness shine through, and I love that you are sharing all the info, not just the sugar-coated kind. We are living in Thailand and in the process of adopting a son here, and your shared journey means a lot to me. Thanks. :)Tara and Dalehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17336978805731990875noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-44727598160558817152010-05-14T15:46:35.939-04:002010-05-14T15:46:35.939-04:00Yes; Daddy is the favorite here too. Our son will...Yes; Daddy is the favorite here too. Our son will hold my hand in public only if Daddy is not around or he has his hands full. At bed time and bath time he screams for Daddy. If Daddy sneaks out, he goes into panic mode when he realizes he's alone with Mommy. But his smile melts my heart and listening to he and Daddy giggle is the greatest sound on earth! Considering Daddy was not as "into" this whole adoption this as I was with all the paperwork and country research, I am happy that this is his time to shine and to feel included in the process. I am sure things will turn around eventually...he already knows that Mommy is his swimming partner...I love it!Ann and Bryanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14106850507445386815noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-65747834377737023732010-05-12T23:14:18.243-04:002010-05-12T23:14:18.243-04:00It can sure be tough some days, can't it. Our...It can sure be tough some days, can't it. Our kiddo disliked us both equally and yet *needed* us both desperately at the same time. Poor guy was so confused and upset. It's heartbreaking, but you'll get past it. Hang in there!Robin and Kylehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16082614259938213897noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-6967900266800702362010-05-12T20:43:46.803-04:002010-05-12T20:43:46.803-04:00Rosemary with both my girls I had the exact same s...Rosemary with both my girls I had the exact same scenario. Both hated me to the point that if I would come near them, they would scream bloody murder. With my son it was an instant understanding for which later on bonding progressed beautifully. My latest daughter I could not get near her in China. People would stare as I sat far away from her on the table. I can just imagine what they must have been thinking. But thankfully I had that experience with my eldest and I knew this too would pass. As it is now, she is as loving to me as her father. Being a first time Mom and confronting this is pretty unsettling but we must remember that it is not about us, it is about them and how comfortable they feel. Their losses are unimaginable. I only wanted to do that which caused the least discomfort. Once home I could press the issue little by little each day. Hang in there, it does change.Yolihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068063513978782703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-78311006114232693322010-05-12T19:46:56.011-04:002010-05-12T19:46:56.011-04:00We didn't have that experience... but that'...We didn't have that experience... but that's only cuz the Tongginator was an equal opportunity rejecter. Heh. I DO know several families that this happened to, including some of our travelmates. It was so hard on those mommas.a Tonggu Mommahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01365812914466181060noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-33441158885263583352010-05-12T17:27:22.142-04:002010-05-12T17:27:22.142-04:00Thanks! Just thanks for this post. Way to go on ...Thanks! Just thanks for this post. Way to go on all fronts!sylviahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15572153992885577895noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-70373664907483730302010-05-12T16:27:12.376-04:002010-05-12T16:27:12.376-04:00You are correct - no one wants to talk about it bu...You are correct - no one wants to talk about it but its there and its real. I know at least 2 mothers who have suffered through the same thing - and I bet there are more who just don't want to 'scare' me with the truth. Even when you are expecting it I imagine its still the most horrible feeling in the world.<br /><br />BIG HUGS - Everyone tells me it does get better. xxooKerrie (and Jason)https://www.blogger.com/profile/08262360562762627846noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-5790786034498301692010-05-12T16:04:03.386-04:002010-05-12T16:04:03.386-04:00I'm so sorry what you've been through! But...I'm so sorry what you've been through! But I second what Jessica said. You are a strong and loving person and you will break through this rough patch. Just keep doing everything you are doing. Baby steps are still steps and every little thing counts. He will be Momma's boy in no time!Maci Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13506178512279029315noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-90511228371145997192010-05-12T15:00:08.922-04:002010-05-12T15:00:08.922-04:00Ohh, Roses. You hang in there! You're great! M...Ohh, Roses. You hang in there! You're great! Matt and I have talked about the possiblity of this happening. But it sounds like progress on all kinds of levels is being made day-by-day with you and your Button. <br /><br />You are made of tough, beautiful stuff. Hang tight to your instinct; it seems to be serving you well.Jessicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04939361541926609995noreply@blogger.com