tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post4486380443228393658..comments2023-05-01T10:08:47.845-04:00Comments on Becoming A Family: What Cheeses My Grits - Part 2Brian and Rosemaryhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10937005438615470890noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-60382548740854323822009-07-06T19:59:26.145-04:002009-07-06T19:59:26.145-04:00Rosemary, thank you for posting about this topic. ...Rosemary, thank you for posting about this topic. We are parents to two bio daughters and are awaiting travel for our son who is in BKK. <br /><br />I totally agree with your part 1 post. Children nor adoption should ever be a project. And while we were already parents before our decision to adopt, we did feel called or compelled, if you will, to adopt. It was not driven by a desire to be a parent. We weren't fulfilling a God given need to parent. It was in many ways an act of obedience. We had prayed daily about this for a year. We are Christians, my husband is a minister. And we felt that God was very clear in this leading to adopt. Personally, I don't view the word "ministry" as negative though I understand completely where you were coming from. The word simply means "to serve". As a Christian, I believe it was modeled beautifully by Jesus. And as a minister's wife, our entire life is devoted to serving others. And in reality, we serve our daughters everyday...we feed them and clothe them and teach them and love them. They are the light of our life. And it is the sweetest privilege to do so. They are gifts. And we adore them. It is no burden at all to serve them or minister to them. It is our joy.<br /><br />But our son, who in our hearts is already our son, is no project. He is not a ministry that we hope will gain us any acceptance from God. He is a gift as well and is as much wanted as our girls were. Honestly, I wondered how this would happen. I'm just being truthful. I wondered if I could love him with the same abandon I feel for our daughters. But already, there is such a deep love for him. For this little boy that we've never met or touched or held. We are on pins and needles waiting to go and begin lavishing love on this sweet little boy.<br /><br />The Bible speaks in James about orphans, and how caring for them is "true religion"...I for one believe that this means caring for and about orphans is not a requirement for right standing with God, but rather the natural overflow of a heart who has itself been shown grace. <br /><br />Knowing the story of our son's birth mother, reinforces my belief that God brings good out of hard circumstances. And that while my heart longs for him to be home...her's probably does as well. I think about her all the time. Her loss is our gain and that is hard to reconcile in my heart. We are blessed already~<br /><br />Thanks again for this post. <br />KamKamhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07053868501883847321noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-18002441350632105652009-07-06T17:12:02.917-04:002009-07-06T17:12:02.917-04:00What a wonderful view. I will be checking out her ...What a wonderful view. I will be checking out her blog.Yolihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06068063513978782703noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3953430069221343164.post-39386520456095344752009-07-01T19:33:42.039-04:002009-07-01T19:33:42.039-04:00I love Marla's last statement. Life IS about ...I love Marla's last statement. Life IS about adoption, isn't it? :-)Wyndeehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08114016535683459963noreply@blogger.com